Saturday, July 17, 2004

AL-ZUKHRUF

Surah Al-Zukhruf "Ornament" 43:33-47
(Revealed at Mecca, 89 Verses)




33. Walawla an yakoona alnnasu ommatan wahidatan lajaAAalna liman yakfuru bialrrahmani libuyootihim suqufan min fiddatin wamaAAarija AAalayha yathharoona
And were it not that mankind would become one community, We would have made for those who disbelieve in the All-merciful, the roofs of their houses, and the stairs whereon they mount, (33)

34. Walibuyootihim abwaban wasururan AAalayha yattakioona
and doors of their houses and the couches whereon they recline, (34)

35. Wazukhrufan wain kullu thalika lamma mataAAu alhayati alddunya waalakhiratu AAinda rabbika lilmuttaqeena
of silver and ornamental; and but all that is only the comfort of the present life; and the Hereafter with thy Lord is for the godfearing. (35)

36. Waman yaAAshu AAan thikri alrrahmani nuqayyid lahu shaytanan fahuwa lahu qareenun
And he who blinds himself to the Remembrance of the All-merciful, We assign to him a devil and he becomes his comrade. (36)

37. Wainnahum layasuddoonahum AAani alssabeeli wayahsaboona annahum muhtadoona
And they bar them from the way, yet they think that they are guided. (37)

38. Hatta itha jaana qala ya layta baynee wabaynaka buAAda almashriqayni fabisa alqareenu
Until, when he comes to Us, he will say (to the comrade), 'would that there had been between me and thee the distance of the two Easts!' How evil is the comrade! (38)

39. Walan yanfaAAakumu alyawma ith thalamtum annakum fee alAAathabi mushtarikoona
'But since you committed wrong, it shall not profit you today; you are partners in the punishment.' (39)

40. Afaanta tusmiAAu alssumma aw tahdee alAAumya waman kana fee dalalin mubeenin
Wilt thou then make the deaf to hear, or guide the blind and him who is clearly astray? (40)

41. Faimma nathhabanna bika fainna minhum muntaqimoona
Whether We take thee away, We shall take vengeance upon them; (41)

42. Aw nuriyannaka allathee waAAadnahum fainna AAalayhim muqtadiroona
or We shall show thee what We have promised them, for We have power over them. (42)

43. Faistamsik biallathee oohiya ilayka innaka AAala siratin mustaqeemin
So hold thou fast to that revealed to thee; surely thou art on a straight path. (43)

44. Wainnahu lathikrun laka waliqawmika wasawfa tusaloona
And it is surely a Reminder to thee and to thy people; and you shall soon be questioned.(44)

45. Waisal man arsalna min qablika min rusulina ajaAAalna min dooni alrrahmani alihatan yuAAbadoona
And ask those of Our Messengers that We sent before thee, 'have We appointed, apart from the All-merciful, any gods to be served?' (45)

46. Walaqad arsalna moosa biayatina ila firAAawna wamalaihi faqala innee rasoolu rabbi alAAalameena
And We sent Moses with Our Signs to Pharaoh and his chiefs and he said, 'I am a Messenger of the Lord of the world.' (46)

47. Falamma jaahum biayatina itha hum minha yadhakoona
Then, when he brought them Our Signs, they laughed at them. (47)


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AL-TAUBA

Surah Al-Tauba "Repentance" 9:28-36
(Revealed at Medina, Verses 129)

28. Ya ayyuha allatheena amanoo innama almushrikoona najasun fala yaqraboo almasjida alharama baAAda AAamihim hatha wain khiftum AAaylatan fasawfa yughneekumu Allahu min fadlihi in shaa inna Allaha AAaleemun hakeemun
O Believers, the idolaters are simply unclean, so let them not come near the Sacred Mosque after this year of theirs. And if you fear poverty, God will soon enrich you of His bounty if He will; God is Knowing, Wise. (28)

29. Qatiloo allatheena la yuminoona biAllahi wala bialyawmi alakhiri wala yuharrimoona ma harrama Allahu warasooluhu wala yadeenoona deena alhaqqi mina allatheena ootoo alkitaba hatta yuAAtoo aljizyata AAan yadin wahum saghiroona
Fight those who do not believe in God, nor in the Last Day, nor do they forbid what God and His Messenger have forbidden, nor do they practise the religion of truth, from among those who were given the Book, until they pay tribute out of hand, duly humbled. (29)

30. Waqalati alyahoodu AAuzayrun ibnu Allahi waqalati alnnasara almaseehu ibnu Allahi thalika qawluhum biafwahihim yudahioona qawla allatheena kafaroo min qablu qatalahumu Allahu anna yufakoona
And the Jews say, 'Ezra is the son of God,' and the Christians say, 'Messiah is the son of God'; that is their utterance with their mouths; they imitate the utterance of the unbelievers before them; God destroy them; how perverted they are! (30)

31. Ittakhathoo ahbarahum waruhbanahum arbaban min dooni Allahi waalmaseeha ibna maryama wama omiroo illa liyaAAbudoo ilahan wahidan la ilaha illa huwa subhanahu AAamma yushrikoona
They have taken their priests and their monks and the Messiah, son of Mary, as lords, apart from God, while they were commanded to serve only One God; there is no god but He; He is Holy, above that they associate. (31)

32. Yureedoona an yutfioo noora Allahi biafwahihim wayaba Allahu illa an yutimma noorahu walaw kariha alkafiroona
They desire to extinguish the light of God with their mouths, but God refuses except that He will perfect His light, though the unbelievers be averse. (32)

33. Huwa allathee arsala rasoolahu bialhuda wadeeni alhaqqi liyuthhirahu AAala alddeeni kullihi walaw kariha almushrikoona
It is He who has sent His Messenger with Guidance and the Religion of Truth that He may make it prevail over all religions, though the idolaters be averse. (33)

34. Ya ayyuha allatheena amanoo inna katheeran mina alahbari waalrruhbani layakuloona amwala alnnasi bialbatili wayasuddoona AAan sabeeli Allahi waallatheena yaknizoona alththahaba waalfiddata wala yunfiqoonaha fee sabeeli Allahi fabashshirhum biAAathabin aleemin
O Believers, many of the priests and the monks eat the goods of the people falsely and bar from God's way. And those who treasure up gold and silver and do not expend them in the way of God, give them the good news of a painful punishment, (34)

35. Yawma yuhma AAalayha fee nari jahannama fatukwa biha jibahuhum wajunoobuhum wathuhooruhum hatha ma kanaztum lianfusikum fathooqoo ma kuntum taknizoona
on the day it shall be heated in the Fire of Hell, and their foreheads and their sides and their backs shall be branded with it: 'this is what you treasured up for yourselves; now taste what you were treasuring.' (35)

36. Inna AAiddata alshshuhoori AAinda Allahi ithna AAashara shahran fee kitabi Allahi yawma khalaqa alssamawati waalarda minha arbaAAatun hurumun thalika alddeenu alqayyimu fala tathlimoo feehinna anfusakum waqatiloo almushrikeena kaffatan kama yuqatiloonakum kaffatan waiAAlamoo anna Allaha maAAa almuttaqeena
The number of the months with God, the day He created the heavens and the earth, is twelve in the Book of God--of them four are sacred. That is the standing religion; so do not wrong yourselves during them. And fight the idolaters totally as they fight you totally, and know that God is with the god-fearing. (36)

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Friday, July 16, 2004

Poetry Reading by Salleh Ben Joned

EVENT ANNOUNCEMENT

Date: Saturday, July 24, 2004
Time: 8.00 pm to 10.00 pm
Event: Poetry Reading


Poet: Salleh Ben Joned


Introduction by: Professor Emeritus Tan Sri Dato' Awang Had Salleh

Venue: Rumah Universiti, University of Malaya, Lembah Pantai, 59100 Kuala Lumpur. If lost, ring Tel: 03-7956 0286 for directions.
Directions: Nearest LRT station as Putra Stesen Universiti, then take a bus or taxi (they are plentiful outside the PUTRA LRT Stesen Universiti)
Routes To the University of Malaya
University of Malaya Campus Map

Entrance: by donation at the door
Light refreshments will be served

Organised by
Young Professionals Consultative Society (YPCS)
in aid of
United World Colleges Scholarship Fund

International Debut
Malaysian journalist and essayist Salleh Ben Joned will read selected as-yet-unpublished poems from his forth-coming book called Adam's Dream and also poems from the second edition of Poems Sacred and Profane, signed copies of which will be available on a first-come-first-served basis as well as limited copies of his controversial books of social commentary and essays As I Please: Selected Writings 1975-1994 and Nothing is Sacred.


Salleh Ben Joned is one of that rare breed; the literary street fighter who does not hesitate to be controversial or shocking in order to make his point.

PLEASE KEEP THIS DATE FREE IN YOUR DIARY!

Venue is confirmed at Rumah Universiti, University of Malaya, Lembah Pantai, 59100 Kuala Lumpur.

Background
This is what another Malaysian writer says about Salleh Ben Joned: "...another poet writing in English--and Bahasa Malaysia--worth mentioning, but he has written too few poems. Strong poems, but only a handful."
~ Poet Wong Phui Nam in MANOA, A Pacific Journal of International Writing: Land Beneath the Wind.

The Young Professionals Consultative Society (YPCS) aims to be a conduit for both the interests and responsibilities of professionals across the country. We are first and foremost committed to the idea that as professionals, we have an attendant responsibility to give something back to our community. And that includes, as how we have come to understand it, the process of educating, exposing, exchanging and ultimately involving both professionals and other members of society in improving and bettering our lives individually and collectively. We believe that creating a better society is a collective effort and that young professionals are in a position to help tremendously in achieving those aims. We hope to share some of these aspirations with you. YPCS has "adopted" United World Colleges as its flagship education project and has decided to help raise funds for Malaysian students to attend a United World College.


United World Colleges (UWC) is the only global educational movement which brings together students from all over the world at pre-university level (or tertiary level, in the case of one College), regardless of their ability to pay. Students are selected on merit and live together in an environment designed to foster international understanding, tolerance and peace.

~ UWC Mission Statement


AGENDA
7.30 pm Arrival of members and guests. Opportunity for mingling and networking. Salleh Ben Joned will sign copies of his various books, which shall be on sale.

8.00 pm Welcome address by Khaldun Malek, President of YPCS.

8.10 pm Introduction by Professor Emeritus Tan Sri Dato' Awang Had Salleh, Chairman, UWC Malaysia National Committee.

8.30 pm Introductory Remarks and Poetry Reading by Salleh Ben Joned.

Question and Answer Session.

Announcement by Khaldun Malek, President of YPCS of total amount of donation collected from audience.

10 pm Salleh Ben Joned will sign copies of his various books, which shall be on sale. More mingling and networking.

Close.

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Monday, July 12, 2004

The Ceremony of Tree-Planting

His Holiness the Dalai Lama

On a certain day, month and year one should observe the ceremony of tree-planting. Thus, one fulfills one's responsibilities, serves one's fellow-beings which not only brings happiness, but benefits all.

~ His Holiness the Dalai Lama, October 1993
in The Pocket Dalai Lama edited by Mary Craig

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Sunday, July 11, 2004

Your Deeds

Tirukkural 51:504-505

Weigh a man's merits and weigh his faults
Then judge him according to the greater.
The touchstone which discloses a man's greatness
Or smallness is simply this--his deeds.

~ Tirukkural 51:504-505
Excerpted from the Tirukkural, translated by Satguru Sivaya Subramuniyaswami

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This fleeting life

Qur'an, Al-Asra (The Night Journey), Surah 17:18-19

'Those who are concerned only with this fleeting life, will soon suffer in the manner we choose. We determine people's fate as we please. We have prepared hell for those in love with this fleeting life; they will burn within its flames, despised and helpless.' But the true believers who are concerned with the life to come, and strive for it with all their souls, will have their efforts rewarded by God.
~ Translated by Robert Van der Weyer in 366 Readings From Islam

Whoso desires this hasty world, We hasten for him therein what We will, for whomso We desire; then We appoint for him Hell; there he shall burn condemned and rejected. And whoso desires the Hereafter and strives for it as he should, and he is a Believer, those -- their striving shall be thankfully accepted.
~ Translated by Dr Colonel (Rtd) Muhammad Ayub in www.quranweb.com

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Constant Regret of Your Sins

~ Al-Hujwiri, "The Kashf al-Mahjub"

From:
The Bounty of Allah: Daily Reflections from the Qur'an and Islamic Tradition
Translated by Aneela Khalid Arshed. The Crossroad Publishing Company, New York

True repentance entails constant regret of your sins. Without remorse, good deeds, be they abounding, could be eclipsed by pride that follows piety. Remorse for a sin is superior to good works. Never forget your transgressions to save yourself from conceit.


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Thursday, July 08, 2004

Dressing for Success

Especially at Job Interviews

The first thing an interviewer will notice about you is how you're dressed. Even before you say hello or shake their hand, they're starting to form an impression of you based on your appearance. Therefore, you need to make sure you are dressed properly for interviews.

It's estimated that people gain meaning more from non-verbal cues in conversations than from the actual words exchanged. Therefore, how you present yourself in an interview will have a significant impact on how the interviewer perceives you. If you're applying for a job as a manager, the interviewer will be trying to decide how you would be perceived by subordinates and other managers.

Basically, they're asking themselves, "would this person fit in?" One way to figure out how best to dress to fit in would be to visit the company ahead of time for some "surveillance" work. If you hang around outside the company's parking lot, you could observe how most people dress there. Of course it's best not to be conspicuous - if the interviewer saw you hanging around their parking lot a few days earlier, they might think you're strange! There are some basic rules that everyone should follow when going on a job interview:

- Your goal should be to look clean, healthy and successful.

- Make sure you don't have bad breath. Nobody wants to work with someone who smells bad.

- On the other hand, don't overdo it with aftershave/perfume.

- Always err on the side of conservatism. Men should wear conservative ties for interviews and women should opt for a more conservative blouse.

- Your hair should be clean and neat.

- Your nails should be clean and a reasonable length.

- Women should wear tan or light hosiery. If you know people who work in a similar company (or the same company) in the same location, talk to them about how people dress for work. Especially if you are moving from another part of the country. For example, lawyers in California often dress a bit more casually and wear less conservative ties than lawyers in New York.

- Be sure to follow rules of etiquette when on the interview itself. Give the interviewer a chance to offer you a seat. If you're wearing a suit jacket, don't take it off in the interview. Remember, an interview is partly a formality. Especially if the interviewer is a human resources person or other staff member who is not very familiar with your field, you may be judged much more on your appearance and how well you conform to the "picture" of what a good interviewee should be like than on the content of what you say in the interview.

- A great movie about creating the right appearance is the recent Steven Spielberg film, "Catch Me If You Can," which starred Leonardo Di Caprio. In the movie, which is based on a true story, Di Caprio plays a con artist and counterfeiter named Frank Abignale, Jr. Frank is able to work as an airline pilot, a doctor and a lawyer all because he is able to come across like he fits in. Even though he was only 16, he knew enough to do his research ahead of time and create the right appearance.

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Crank Callers

Crank Callers

A friend of mine received an amusing crank telephone call from a number in Kajang (+603-8733 2143) at 10 pm (well, 21:58:59 to be exact) last night from someone who claims to be "Rosli" asking for "Azzmy."

Other (possibly unrelated) crank callers and their accomplices have been making numerous threatening, abusive and slanderous calls and SMSes (text messages) ~ even in the wee hours of the morning ~ for the past few months. The powers-that-be know the main perpetrator's identity. They even know he trespassed another friend's house and scratched her Suzuki, had been stalking her, harassing her and drives round her house. He has even gone to make a nuisance of himself at her mother's house, weeping in tears. Before you jump to the conclusion that he is a typical wussy, a pathetic wimp, do consider the following.

The problem is that this crank caller is mentally disordered and from the ramblings in his speech and abusive SMSes, he is self-evidently schizopheric and delusional.

From what evidence we have gathered, he appears to suffer from bipolar affective disorder but is undiagnosed, untreated and unmedicated. His angst appears to be derived from a failed relationship and from jealousy. The object of his desire has had enough of his emotional instability and abusive behaviour. She broke off with him on January 4, 2004 but he still can't accept that he's history and move on with his life. She had forgiven him then for all his sins towards her and moved on with her life. See The Final Goodbye: Farewell message to an ex-boyfriend.

He is in self-denial, not being able to accept that he is no longer loved and that his former beau does not want to have anything to do with him anymore. He can go commit suicide for all she cares. She is beyond caring.

I pray that Allah destroys his anger and cures him of his illness. I suggest he seeks psychiatric help as soon as possible before he poses a danger to others and/or to himself. He can go to the walk-in clinic at any psychiatric department in any general hospital without an appointment and seek urgent treatment.

The authorities know your identity, have your description, know who you have been talking to in the media and also your handphone number. We know where you live, what cars you drive. It's a pity you don't realise you're only making a fool of yourself. Everyone who knows you, your friends, your office colleagues, your business partners and associates, all think you're "crazy."

If any of my friends and I are in the slightest danger, not only will the full force of the law come down bearing on you, but also the wrath of Allah, for the All Mighty has promised:

Innama alssabeelu AAala allatheena yathlimoona alnnasa wayabghoona fee alardi bighayri alhaqqi olaika lahum AAathabun aleemun

More about this mentally disordered person is available here: A Short Note to Ex-boyfriends

See also:
The Mental Health Act 2001
On Envy and Jealousy
On Jealousy Part 1
On Jealousy Part 2

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Wednesday, July 07, 2004

Urology 101

Problems of the Prostate Gland

ANATOMICAL STRUCTURES INVOLVED

Prostate Gland
The prostate gland is a small walnut-shaped organ that lies just below a man's bladder. It surrounds the urethra, the tube that carries urine from the bladder out of the body through the penis. The prostate gland produces most of the fluid in semen.

Seminal Vesicles
The seminal vesicles are two sac-like structures that produce part of the thick fluid (semen) that contains sperm. The vesicles are located just above the prostate gland.

The Bladder
The bladder is a hollow organ in the lower abdomen. It stores urine, the waste that is produced when the kidneys filter the blood. The bladder has a muscular wall that allows it to get larger and smaller as urine is stored or emptied. Urine passes from the two kidneys into the bladder through two tubes called ureters. Urine leaves the bladder through another tube, the urethra.


Benign Prostatic Hyperplasia (BPH) Assessment

symptoms
Do you have any of the following symptoms that have not been evaluated by your doctor? (Check all that apply.)

( ) blood in your urine

( ) pain or burning upon urination

( ) persistent pain in your lower back, pelvis, or upper thighs

( ) new onset of impotence or inability to attain or maintain an erection

( ) none of the above

more information
If you have any of these symptoms, visit your primary healthcare practitioner right away. These symptoms are not typical of an enlarged prostate and may be caused by an acute, bacterial infection of the prostate called prostatitis, by prostate cancer, or by another medical condition. It is important to have your primary healthcare practitioner promptly determine what is causing the symptoms and to prescribe the appropriate treatment.


type of symptoms
Do you have urinary tract symptoms, such as a weak stream, low volume, a feeling that you have not emptied your bladder completely, or getting up to urinate frequently at night?

( ) yes

( ) no

more information
These urinary symptoms typically are caused by age-related, prostate changes that are attributed to an enlarged prostate and may be diagnosed as BPH. There are many treatment options available, but you may not need to treat your symptoms at all.


cause of symptoms
Has your primary healthcare practitioner told you that your urinary symptoms are due to benign prostate problems (e.g., BPH, enlarged prostate, obstruction caused by tissue enlargement, or smooth muscle tension in the prostate)?

( ) yes

( ) no

( ) unsure

more information
There are many possible causes of urinary symptoms. BPH is the most common and can result in several changes in the prostate that contribute to urinary symptoms. Be sure to see your primary healthcare practitioner to ensure that the cause of your symptoms is diagnosed properly.


completion
During the past 4 weeks, how often have you had the feeling that you did not empty your bladder completely after you finished urinating?

( ) not at all

( ) less than 1 time in 5

( ) less than one-half the time

( ) about one-half the time

( ) more than one-half the time

( ) almost always

more information
This symptom is usually, but not always, caused by BPH. An enlarged prostate or a constriction of the smooth muscles of the gland can narrow the urethra and cause urinary difficulties. How often you experience this problem does not necessarily indicate how much your prostate is enlarged or how severely your urethra is obstructed.


stopping and starting
During the past 4 weeks, how often have you found that, when urinating, you stopped and started again several times?

( ) not at all

( ) less than 1 time in 5

( ) less than one-half the time

( ) about one-half the time

( ) more than one-half the time

( ) almost always

more information
This symptom is usually, but not always, caused by BPH. An enlarged prostate or a constriction of the smooth muscles of the gland can narrow the urethra and cause urinary difficulties. How often you experience this problem does not necessarily indicate how much your prostate is enlarged or how severely your urethra is obstructed.

weak stream
During the past 4 weeks, how often have you had a weak urine stream?


( ) not at all

( ) less than 1 time in 5

( ) less than one-half the time

( ) about one-half the time

( ) more than one-half the time

( ) almost always

more information
This symptom is usually, but not always, caused by BPH. An enlarged prostate or a constriction of the smooth muscles of the gland can narrow the urethra and cause urinary difficulties. How often you experience this problem does not necessarily indicate how much your prostate is enlarged or how severely your urethra is obstructed.


pushing or straining
During the past 4 weeks, how often have you had to push or strain to begin urination?

( ) not at all

( ) less than 1 time in 5

( ) less than one-half the time

( ) about one-half the time

( ) more than one-half the time

( ) almost always

more information
This symptom is usually, but not always, caused by BPH. An enlarged prostate or a constriction of the smooth muscles of the gland can narrow the urethra and cause urinary difficulties. How often you experience this problem does not necessarily indicate how much your prostate is enlarged or how severely your urethra is obstructed.


frequency
During the past 4 weeks, how often did you have to urinate less than 2 hours after your last urination?

( ) not at all

( ) less than 1 time in 5

( ) less than one-half the time

( ) about one-half the time

( ) more than one-half the time

( ) almost always

more information
This symptom is usually, but not always, caused by BPH. An enlarged prostate or a constriction of the smooth muscles of the gland can narrow the urethra and cause urinary difficulties. How often you experience this problem does not necessarily indicate how much your prostate is enlarged or how severely your urethra is obstructed.


postponement
During the past 4 weeks, how often have you found it difficult to postpone urination?

( ) not at all

( ) less than 1 time in 5

( ) less than one-half the time

( ) about one-half the time

( ) more than one-half the time

( ) almost always

more information
This symptom is usually, but not always, caused by BPH. An enlarged prostate or a constriction of the smooth muscles of the gland can narrow the urethra and cause urinary difficulties. How often you experience this problem does not necessarily indicate how much your prostate is enlarged or how severely your urethra is obstructed.


night habits
During the past 4 weeks, how many times did you most typically get up to urinate from the time that you went to bed until the time that you got up in the morning?

( ) 0 times

( ) 1 time

( ) 2 times

( ) 3 times

( ) 4 times

( ) 5 or more times

more information
This symptom is usually, but not always, caused by BPH. An enlarged prostate or a constriction of the smooth muscles of the gland can narrow the urethra and cause urinary difficulties. How often you experience this problem does not necessarily indicate how much your prostate is enlarged or how severely your urethra is obstructed.


lifetime symptoms
How would you feel if you were to spend the rest of your life with your prostate symptoms exactly the way they are now?

( ) pleased

( ) mostly satisfied

( ) mixed (about equally satisfied and dissatisfied)

( ) mostly dissatisfied

( ) unhappy

( ) terrible

more information
As a rule, nothing is done for mild symptoms that are related to an enlarged prostate. But as symptoms become more severe, treatment becomes more appropriate.


current treatment
Which, if any, of the following treatments are you currently using for your urinary symptoms? (Check all that apply.)

( ) herbal therapy (e.g., saw palmetto or Pygeum africanum)

( ) alpha-blocker drugs [e.g., terazosin (Hytrin), doxazosin (Cardura), and tamsulosin (Flomax)]

( ) finasteride (Proscar)

( ) none of the above

more information
The response to different treatments varies among men. If you have had a previous treatment that was not successful, you may have to try another approach. Generally, the optimal strategy is to use the least invasive approach necessary to get the desired improvement in symptoms.


habits and lifestyle
Which of the following activities do you do on a regular basis? (Check all that apply.)

( ) sitting for long periods

( ) getting little exercise

( ) tending to hold urination

( ) taking cold or allergy medicine regularly

( ) eating a diet low in fruits and vegetables

( ) drinking fluids 2-3 hours before bed

( ) drinking coffee

( ) drinking alcohol

( ) ejaculating infrequently

( ) experience stress

( ) none of the above

more information
All of these activities can affect prostate function negatively and worsen urinary symptoms. While few studies have actually investigated the relationship of these behaviors with urinary symptoms--or the effects that these behaviors may have on improving symptoms--these habits may help to improve overall prostate health.


diagnosis or DRE
Have you been diagnosed with prostate cancer or had a digital rectal exam (DRE) with a possibly abnormal result on which you did not follow up?

( ) Yes, I've been diagnosed with prostate cancer.

( ) Yes, I've had a DRE with a possibly abnormal result.

( ) No, I've had a DRE with a NO abnormal result.

more information
BPH and prostate cancer often occur at the same time because they both become more common as you age. Prostate cancer is obviously a more serious concern and is more important to treat. A possibly abnormal (or suspicious) DRE is usually the result of BPH, but there is a chance that it could be prostate cancer.


prostate cancer concerns
Are you concerned that your BPH may increase your risk of prostate cancer?

( ) yes

( ) no

more information
Neither BPH nor its associated urinary symptoms has been shown to increase the risk of prostate cancer. The only major risk factors of prostate cancer are having a family history of the disease or being African American.


related conditions
Do you have a history of any of the following conditions? (Check all that apply.)

( ) recurrent urinary tract infections

( ) recurrent or persistent blood in your urine

( ) bladder stones

( ) acute urinary retention (complete inability to urinate)

( ) renal insufficiency or hydronephrosis

( ) overflow incontinence

( ) urethral stricture

( ) prior lower urinary tract surgery (e.g., TURP )

( ) none of the above

( ) unsure

more information
These conditions are related to BPH and could be causing or contributing to your symptoms. If you have a history of any of these conditions, your primary healthcare practitioner should evaluate them before considering treatment for BPH. With these conditions, non-surgical options for treating BPH may be less likely to help.


coexisting medical conditions
Do you have any of the following symptoms? (Check all that apply.)

( ) high blood pressure

( ) diabetes

( ) congestive heart failure

( ) neurological problems, such as stroke or Parkinson's disease

( ) none of the above

more information
Certain coexisting medical conditions make treating BPH more complicated. Because BPH is usually more of an annoyance than a real threat to longevity, its treatment may follow the treatment of the other diseases.


How You're Doing

The following set of recommendations are based on the results from your Benign Prostatic Hyperplasia (BPH) Assessment (above). If you feel that your condition has changed, you may want to go back to the Questionnaire and change your answers.

Severity of Symptoms
Your urinary symptoms are classified as mild. Usually this means that treatment is not necessary until symptoms worsen. If you do start some treatment, you may have difficulty noticing improvement because your symptoms are mild. The key factor in deciding whether to start treatment is to determine how much your symptoms bother you--not how severe your symptoms are.

Severity of Bother
Because you have indicated that you are significantly bothered by your symptoms, treatment is warranted. Treatment options include drug therapy; newer, low-risk surgical procedures; and traditional TURP, which still provides the best long-term symptom relief but with more risks involved.

Men under age 50
BPH that is so advanced as to cause significant urinary problems is unusual in men under the age of 50. See your primary healthcare practitioner to determine the cause of your symptoms. BPH is often a diagnosis by exclusion; that is, other more serious causes are ruled out to confirm that it is BPH.

Sitting
Avoid sitting continuously for long periods of time. Develop the habit of getting up and moving around once in while. Doing so helps maintain the circulation in the prostate region (and the rest of the body) and stimulates normal, urinary-tract function.

Exercise
Exercise, for about 30 minutes a day, can play an important role in balancing hormones in the body, by keeping testosterone levels in check. A higher testosterone level means a greater amount is converted into dihydrotestosterone (DHT), which stimulates prostate growth. Exercise also can reduce the activity of the sympathetic nervous system, which may help reduce smooth muscle tone in the prostate.

Holding Urination
Getting in the habit of holding your urination can increase the tone in the bladder sphincter muscle, which, in turn, can lead to symptoms related to BPH. When you feel the urge to urinate, relieve yourself.

Fluid Intake
Make sure that you drink plenty of water. However, if you must frequently get up at night to urinate, don't drink any fluids after 6:00 pm in the evening and go take a piss before you go to bed.

Stress
The smooth, involuntary muscle of the prostate and the bladder neck are contracted when adrenal hormones, which are brought on by stress, trigger the sympathetic nervous system. To avoid this, take some measures to reduce the stress in your life.

Behaviour
You have checked at least one behaviour that could be changed to possibly receive some relief from your BPH-related symptoms. Consider changing your behaviours to determine if your symptoms improve.


What You're Doing Right

Avoiding Over The Counter Cold Medications
It is good that you do not take too many nonprescription (over-the-counter) decongestants or antihistamines for colds or allergies because they can make your urinary symptoms worse. Remember, if you need a cold or allergy medication, ask your doctor for one that will not aggravate your prostate.

Eating a Diet with Plenty of Fruits and Vegetables
It is good that you eat a healthful diet, especially with plenty of fruits and vegetables. This helps keep your bowels regular, which reduces the pressure on your prostate.

Limiting Coffee Intake
It is good that you are limiting your consumption of caffeine. This helps keep your prostate relaxed, so urination is easier. In addition, limiting your consumption of caffeine reduces the amount of urine your body produces. Be sure to drink plenty of water, spread out over the day.

Limiting Alcohol
You are helping your urinary problems by limiting your alcohol consumption. Keep this up. It doesn't mean that you cannot drink any alcohol, simply keep it to a minimum.

Having Regular Ejaculations (go wank a lot!)
You are helping your prostate by having regular ejaculations. The fluids produced by the prostate need to be regularly released to keep your prostate from getting stale.


Your Treatment Choices and Options

An Overview of BPH Treatments
Treating the symptoms of BPH is not necessary unless symptoms are bothersome or some complication exists that places the urinary system at risk. Men who suffer from mild symptoms are usually advised to use watchful waiting.

For a man with moderate-to-severe symptoms, alpha-blocker medications that specifically target the prostate are the usual initial treatment. These drugs are less expensive, work faster, and address symptoms better than the alternative medication, an enzyme inhibitor called finasteride (Proscar). However, for a man who has a palpably enlarged prostate and does not respond to alpha-blockers, finasteride is usually prescribed.

Because good medications are available and the use of herbs, such as saw palmetto, is more widely accepted, surgery--including new, minimally invasive procedures--is declining in use. Other surgical approaches, such as balloon dilation and hyperthermia, are used primarily as temporary fixes.

Try An Herbal Treatment - Speak With Your Doctor
The severity of your symptoms is mild, and you report that your symptoms bother you very significantly. You can try an herbal treatment--namely, saw palmetto--to achieve symptom relief. Remember, continuously taking the herbal therapy for at least six months will probably be required to achieve full results. If this seems too long to wait, consult with your primary healthcare practitioner about taking a prescription drug that acts more rapidly.

What to Expect from Your Doctor
If you choose to visit your primary healthcare practitioner about treatment for bothersome urinary symptoms, expect a physical examination, including a blood pressure check and a digital rectal examination to check the size and consistency of your prostate. You also may need an analysis of a urine sample and other laboratory tests, depending on your history and physical exam findings, before your primary healthcare practitioner prescribes treatment.


An Overview of Treatment for BPH:
A quick guide


Benign prostatic hyperplasia (BPH) is a quality-of-life disease. While the condition is extremely common in older men, BPH will not kill you and will rarely make you sick. But BPH can cause urinary problems that can be extremely bothersome.

The course of BPH in a particular man is unpredictable, and there is little consensus about when it becomes necessary to treat the condition. The only clear-cut indication for treatment is when a complication arises that threatens the urinary tract. Otherwise, the indications for treatment are dependent on each man's perception of how the symptoms affect his quality of life.

The purpose of this decision guide is to help you decide whether treatment is reasonable and, if you want treatment, to suggest which therapies will best fit your situation.

The Right Time for Treatment
The most important factor in seeking treatment is how bothered you are by your urinary difficulties--regardless of how often the symptoms arise. The frequency with which you experience difficulties is known as the severity of symptoms and are classified as mild, moderate, or severe.

Mild
Your symptoms are mild, meaning that they occur infrequently. Generally, treatment is not recommended at this stage. But continued monitoring is important to spot when urinary problems are becoming troublesome enough to make treatment worth the risks. You can also change certain habits that affect urinary function or use a low-risk, herbal supplement to treat your BPH symptoms.

The Difference Between Severity and Bother
The severity (or frequency) of symptoms is not necessarily indicative of how bothered you are by urinary difficulties. Tolerance for, and acceptance of, symptoms varies greatly among men. That's why the need for treatment really comes down to how you personally feel about living with the symptoms.

Sorting Out the Options
Drug therapy is the initial treatment for BPH and is usually prescribed by primary healthcare practitioners and internists. A referral to a urologist is typically made, if drug therapy does not yield satisfactory relief of BPH-related symptoms. At this level of treatment, you and your urologist may consider surgery or less-invasive alternatives. You might also consider using herbal therapy before seeking medical care. So, the next step in the decision-making process is determining which options best fit your needs and preferences.

Preferences and Values
While the need for treatment depends on your feelings about the impact of your urinary problems on your daily life, the type of treatment that you choose depends on your values and preferences. The benefits and risks of each option vary, so the final decision must be a personal one.

The first decision that you will make is whether to have surgery.

If you think you would prefer surgery, consider whether you want to:
1) have a long-lasting fix so that you won't have to undergo another procedure to treat BPH later on (Recommended approach: TURP)
2) have the best chance of improvement (Recommended approach: TURP)
3) maintain sexual function and potency (Recommended approach: TUIP or a minimally invasive procedures)
4) minimize complications--even at the expense of less durable improvement (Recommended approach: a minimally invasive procedure)
5) avoid general anesthesia and hospitalization (Recommended approach: a minimally invasive procedure)

If you think you would prefer a nonsurgical alternative, consider whether you want to:
1) avoid drug side effects (Alternative treatment: herbal therapy)
2) prompt relief of symptoms (Alternative treatment: alpha-blocker drugs)
3) prevent complications (Alternative treatment: finasteride)
4) maintain sexual function and desire (Alternative treatment: alpha-blocker drugs or herbal therapy)

Work With Your Primary Healthcare Practitioner
Whatever you decide, consult with your primary healthcare practitioner who can best evaluate your personal risks, other medical conditions that may affect your urinary difficulties, and your potential for improvement. The probabilities presented here are averages taken from the best evidence available. Your personal risks and benefits may be a little different.


THE DIAGNOSIS

Benign Prostatic Hyperplasia (BPH)
Benign prostatic hyperplasia (BPH) is a non-cancerous enlargement of the prostate that occurs in almost all men as they age. It is not clear if BPH is a disease, because the process may be natural. The enlargement is usually harmless, but as the gland gets bigger, it may cause problems such as difficulty urinating, getting up many times a night to urinate, frequently feeling an urge to urinate, or having the sense that the bladder is not completely empty after urination.

BPH does not cause prostate cancer, does not have an effect on a man's ability to father children, and does not usually result in erection problems. However, there is some association between severe symptoms of BPH an increased risk of erection problems. See Erectile Dysfunction and Better Living Through Urology.

I only have a mild case of BPH, what my urologist calls irritative symptoms of the Lower Urinary Tract (see items in blue, above.)

Severity of Symptoms
Your urinary symptoms are classified as mild. Usually this means that treatment is
not necessary until symptoms worsen. If you do start some treatment, you may
have difficulty noticing improvement because your symptoms are mild.

If a man desires treatment for symptoms of an enlarged prostate, his options include medications and surgery. Neither is indicated in my case. My treatment is simply to avoid caffeine (coffee, tea, cola drinks), diuretics (petai, asparagus being two of them) and to take a piss every two hours whether I feel like having one or not.


DIAGNOSTIC PROCEDURES

Transrectal Ultrasound (not indicated)
During a transrectal ultrasound (TRUS), an instrument is placed into the rectum that produces and detects sound waves that bounce off the prostate gland. The pattern of the sound waves creates a picture of the prostate gland that can help locate areas of abnormal tissue. TRUS can also be used to help a doctor guide a needle to the correct spot in the prostate gland for collecting a tissue sample (biopsy).


Transabdominal Ultrasound (not indicated)
You will need to drink 4 to 6 glasses (240 ml) of liquid about an hour before the test and avoid urinating until the test is over. If you cannot drink enough liquid, your bladder may be filled with water through a thin, flexible tube (catheter) inserted through your urethra.

You will be asked to lie on your back on a padded examination table. A special gel will be spread on your abdomen to improve the transmission of the sound waves, which do not pass easily through air. The transducer is pressed against your skin and moved across your abdomen multiple times. You need to lie very still while the ultrasound scan is being done. You may be asked to take a breath and hold it for several seconds during the scanning.

When the test is finished, the gel is cleaned off your skin. You can urinate as soon as the test is done. Transabdominal ultrasound takes about 30 minutes. You may be asked to wait until the radiologist has reviewed the information. The radiologist may want to do additional ultrasound views.


Pelvic Ultrasound in Men (not indicated)

Normal:
The prostate gland and seminal vesicles are normal in size and shape. No growths, tumours, or other abnormalities (such as cysts) are seen.

The bladder is normal in size and shape. No stones or abnormal growths are seen. If the bladder is evaluated before and after urination, it empties completely during urination.

Urine flows from the ureter openings into the bladder.

Abnormal:
Benign prostatic hypertrophy is one of the most common abnormal findings. Other abnormal results may include an abscess, a kidney stone in the urinary tract, or a tumour in or near the prostate gland or bladder.

The bladder may have an abnormal shape or a thickened wall. A growth or stone may be seen in the bladder. If the bladder is evaluated before and after urination, it may not empty completely during urination.

An abnormal amount of fluid is present in the pelvis.


Digital Rectal Examination (done)

You lie on your left side on a bed. The doctor wears a latex examination glove and lubricates the index finger with KY jelly. He places his finger against your anus. He asks you to relax and take in a deep breath. As you suck in your breath, he inserts his finger into your rectum; it's as if you "suck in" his finger. He asks if there is any pain. I said there is NO pain, NO discomfort. In fact, it is even mildly pleasurable as he palpates my prostate (but of course I didn't tell him that!). My prostate is slightly enlarged, about 30 g (this is a subjective, qualitative assessment based on his experience; normal would be between 15 to 25 g range). My prostate is soft and smooth, indicating that the hyperplasia is benign. (If malignant, it would have been hard and knobbly, with nodules.)


Flow Rate Test (done)
I drank 2.5 litres of water in one go and pissed onto a machine. If it means anything to you, here are my results (I repeated it twice as I had so much piss inside me after drinking 2.5 litres of mineral water):

RESULTS 1
July 6, 2004; 5.10 pm
Voiding Time: 21 s
Flow Time: 19 s
Time to Max Flow: 4 s
Max Flow Rate: 20.9 ml/s
Average Flow rate: 14.1 ml/s
Voided Volume: 272 ml
Filter: Standard
Sensor: Spinning Disk

RESULTS 2
July 6, 2004; 5.16 pm
Voiding Time: 16 s
Flow Time: 15 s
Time to Max Flow: 5 s
Max Flow Rate: 27.0 ml/s
Average Flow rate: 15.7 ml/s
Voided Volume: 239 ml
Filter: Standard
Sensor: Spinning Disk

RESULTS 3
July 6, 2004; 5.42 pm
Voiding Time: 33 s
Flow Time: 25 s
Time to Max Flow: 11 s
Max Flow Rate: 33.5 ml/s
Average Flow rate: 13.1 ml/s
Voided Volume: 337 ml
Filter: Standard
Sensor: Spinning Disk

Nota Bene:
Results 3 is inaccurate as I did it while taking 2 samples ~ one in the beginning of the flow and one in mid-flow. These samples were to investigate for sub-clinical infections and for microscopic blood in the urine which may determine the underlying aetiology for my BPH. I shall get the results of these investigations in two weeks.

Further Reading

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Tuesday, July 06, 2004

It is God who kindles the light of dawn

Quran, Al-An'am, Surah 6:96

It is God who kindles the light of dawn. He has made the night for rest, and the sun and moon for reckoning the time. This is what God has ordained; he is supremely powerful, and knows all.

~ Quran, Al-An'am, Surah 6:96

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YPCS AGM

Young Professionals Consultative Society

How you do you define young?

Never fear that old age will invade that city; never fear that this inner treasure of all reality will wither and decay. This knows no age when the body ages; this knows no dying when the body dies. This is the real city of Brahman; this is the Self, free from old age, from death and grief, hunger and thirst. In the Self all desires are fulfilled.

~ Chandogya Upanishad. Excerpted from The Upanishads

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HUMOUR: Riddle

Biblical Babysitter

Question: Who is the greatest babysitter mentioned in the Bible?

Answer: David. He rocked Goliath into a very deep sleep.

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Sunday, July 04, 2004

Darkness departs

and rapture rushes in...

The delusion which mistakes the unreal for the Real
Is the genesis of woeful births.
For those of undimmed perception, free from delusion,
Darkness departs and rapture rushes in.
To those who have dispelled all doubt and perceive Truth,
Heaven is nearer than earth.

~ Tirukkural, 36:351-53


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HADITH: Finest Conduct

as reported by Abdullah bin Amir

The most upright among you are those who
carry themselves with the finest conduct.

~ The Prophet Muhammad (pbuh), as reported by Abdullah bin Amir

Also, note:

One avoids vain talk, and abstains from it.
One speaks at the right time, in accordance with facts,
speaks what is useful, speaks of the law and the discipline;
one's speech is like a treasure, uttered at the right moment,
accompanied by arguments, moderate and full of sense.
This is called Right Speech.

~ Adapted from the Aguttara Nikaya

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HUMOUR: Marriage Jokes

Take note guys!

A newlywed couple had only been married for two weeks. The husband, although very much in love, couldn't wait to go out on the town and party with his old buddies.

So, he said to his new wife, "Honey, I'll be right back."

"Where are you going, coochie cooh?" asked the wife.

"I'm going to the bar, pretty face. I'm going to have a beer."

The wife said, "You want a beer, my love?" She opened the door to the refrigerator and showed him 25 different kinds of beer, brands from 12 different countries: Germany, Holland, Japan, India, etc.

The husband didn't know what to do, and the only thing that he could think of saying was, "Yes, lolly pop... but at the bar... you know... they have frozen glasses..."

He didn't get to finish the sentence, because the wife interrupted him by saying, "You want a frozen glass, puppy face?"

She took a huge beer mug out of the freezer, so frozen that she was getting chills just holding it.

The husband, looking a bit pale, said, "Yes, tootsie roll, but at the bar they have those hors d'oeuvres that are really delicious... I won't be long, I'll be right back. I promise. OK?"

"You want hors d'oeuvres, poochie pooh?" She opened the oven and took out five dishes of different hors d'oeuvres: chicken wings, potato wedges, mushroom caps, fried ikan bilis, etc.

"But my sweet honey... at the bar... you know... there's swearing, dirty words and all that..."

"You want dirty words, cutie pie?

"LISTEN UP, DICKHEAD! DRINK YOUR FUCKING BEER IN YOUR GODDAMN FROZEN MUG AND EAT YOUR MOTHERFUCKING SNACKS, BECAUSE YOU ARE MARRIED NOW, YOU AREN'T GOING ANYWHERE! GOT IT, ASSHOLE?"

...and, they lived happily ever after.

Isn't that a sweet story?

~~~::(",)::~~~


New Lingo for an Old Priest

There was an old priest who got sick of all the people in his parish who kept confessing to adultery. One Sunday, in the pulpit, he said, "If I hear one more person confess to adultery, I'll quit!"

Everyone liked him, so they came up with a code word. Someone who had committed adultery would say instead that they had "fallen." This seemed to satisfy the old priest and things went well until the priest passed away at a ripe, old age. A few days after the new priest arrived, he visited the mayor of the town and seemed very concerned. "Mayor, you have to do something about the sidewalks in town. When people come into the confessional, they keep telling me they've fallen." The mayor started to laugh, realizing that no one had told the new priest about the code word. But, before he could explain, the priest shook an accusing finger at him and shouted, "I don't know what you're laughing about, because your wife has already fallen three times this week!"

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HUMOUR: Black and White

Wedding Joke

Attending a wedding for the first time, a little girl whispered to her mother, "Why is the bride dressed in white?"

"Because white is the colour of happiness, and today is the happiest day of her life."

The child thought about this for a moment, then said, "So why is the groom wearing black?"

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astrological profile

Astrological Profile
for Azlan Adnan

Azlan Adnan's astrological profile

Sun in Virgo


When Azlan Adnan was born, the Sun was in the Sign Virgo, the Craftsperson. Azlan Adnan has an infinite desire to improve a relationship, and an astonishing capacity to notice every detail about the partner and the couple. Living up to one's potentials is high on Azlan Adnan's list, and he doesn't easily accept a careless, catch-as-catch-can attitude. An ideal mate understands the importance of personally fulfilling work in Azlan Adnan's life, and that when he isn't content with his job, he may not be very content with anything else, including, possibly, the relationship. In return, Azlan Adnan may need to recognize that no person, situation or relationship is ever perfect, and that there's a point beyond which striving for impossible standards can frustrate and alienate the partner.

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Saturday, July 03, 2004

Negative feelings

such as violence, are damaging to life...

Negative feelings, such as violence, are damaging to life, whether we act upon them ourselves, or cause or condone them in others. They are born of greed, anger, or delusion, and may be slight, moderate, or intense. Their fruit is endless ignorance and suffering. To remember this is to cultivate the opposite.

~ The Yoga Sutras of Patanjali, 2:34

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All creatures on earth will pass away

Quran, Ar-Rahman, Surah 55:26-30

"All creatures on earth will pass away. But the face of your Lord will endure forever, in all majesty and glory. Which of the Lord's blessings would you deny? All who dwell in the heavens and on the earth, look to God for help. Each day God engages himself on some new task. Which of the Lord's blessings would you deny?"

~ Quran, Ar-Rahman, Surah 55:26-30


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Friday, July 02, 2004

A Chat with God

Edifying Stuff

God: Hello. Did you buzz me?

Me: Buzzed you? No... who is this?

God: This is GOD. I heard your prayers. So I thought I will chat.

Me: I do pray. Just makes me feel good. I am actually busy now. I am in the midst of something.

God: What are you busy at? Ants are busy too.

Me: Don't know. But I can't find free time. Life has become hectic. It's rush hour all the time.

God: Sure. Activity gets you busy. But productivity gets you results. Activity consumes time. Productivity frees it.

Me: I understand. But I still can't figure out. By the way, I was not expecting YOU to buzz me on Instant Messaging chat.

God: Well, I wanted to resolve your fight for time, by giving you some clarity. In this net era, I wanted to reach you through the medium you are most comfortable with.

Me: Tell me, why has life become complicated now?

God: Stop analyzing life. Just live it. Analysis is what makes it complicated.

Me: Why are we then constantly unhappy?

God: Your today is the tomorrow that you worried about yesterday. You are worrying because you are analyzing. Worrying has become your habit. That's why you are not happy.

Me: But how can we not worry when there is so much uncertainty?

God: Uncertainty is inevitable, but worrying is optional.

Me: But then, there is so much pain due to uncertainty...

God: Pain is inevitable, but suffering is optional.

Me: If suffering is optional, why do good people always feel pain?

God: Diamond cannot be polished without friction. Gold cannot be purified without fire. Good people go through trials, but don't suffer. With that experience their life become better not bitter.

Me: You mean to say such experience is useful?

God: Yes. In every sense, Experience is a hard teacher. She gives the test first and the lessons afterwards.

Me: But still, why should we go through such tests? Why can't we be free from problems?

God: PROBLEMS are Purposeful Roadblocks Offering Beneficial Lessons (to) Enhance Mental Strength. Inner strength comes from struggle and endurance, not when you are free of problems.

Me: Frankly in the midst of so many problems, we don't know where we are heading...

God: If you look outside you will not know where you are heading. Look inside. Looking outside, you dream. Looking inside, you awaken. Your eyes provide sight. Your heart provides insight.

Me: Sometimes not succeeding fast seems to hurt more than moving in the right direction. What should I do?

God: Success is a measure as decided by others. Satisfaction is a measure as decided by you. Knowing the road ahead is more satisfying than knowing you rode ahead. You work with the compass. Let others work with the clock.

Me: In tough times, how do you stay motivated?

God: Always look at how far you have come rather than how far you have to go. Always count your blessings, not what you are missing.

Me: What surprises you about people?

God: When they suffer they ask, "Why me?" When they prosper, they never ask "Why me?" Everyone wishes to have truth on their side, but few want to be on the side of the truth.

Me: Sometimes I ask, "Who am I?, Why am I here?" I can't find the answers.

God: Seek not to find who you are, but to determine who you want to be. Stop looking for a purpose as to why you are here. Create it. Life is not a process of discovery but a process of creation.

Me: How can I get the best out of life?

God: Face your past without regret. Handle your present with confidence. Prepare for the future without fear.

Me: One last question. Sometimes I feel my prayers are not answered.

God: There are no unanswered prayers. At times, the answer is NO.

Me: Thank you for this wonderful chat. I am so happy to restart at the middle of the year with a renewed sense of inspiration.

God: Well, keep the faith and drop the fear. Neither believe your doubts nor doubt your beliefs. Life is a mystery to solve, not a problem to resolve. Trust me. Life is wonderful if you know how to live. Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that took our breath away!

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John Kerry

Just as Idiotic as Bush?

This is funny. Wednesday was the last day you can give money to John Kerry. In an effort to convince you that Kerry is worth a little of your money, here are some excerpts from a recent Kerry speech:

On Minimum Wage and Living Wage
"The minimum wage is the lowest it has been in America since Harry Truman was president in 1949 and we hear the same old arguments we've heard since 1949. And every time we've passed an increase in the minimum wage, America's done better, notwithstanding those arguments."

When I'm president, the first thing we're going to do is start to raise that minimum wage to $7 an hour and allow people in America to be able to work and get out of poverty for the work that they do. But it's not limited to minimum wage: you've got to start talking about a living wage that so many mayors are beginning to talk about."


On Health Care as a Right
"We're the only industrial nation in the world that doesn't yet understand health care is not a privilege for the wealthy or the elected or the connected. It is a right for all Americans and we're going to make it available to all Americans. And George Bush, he's had four years as president to offer leadership. He doesn't even talk about it. He doesn't even have a fake plan, ladies and gentlemen, which is normally where they are. He has no plan. And so we've got 44 million Americans who have no care and we have costs going up for everybody in the country! I'm going to make certain we put in place the principle that the health care that senators and congressmen give themselves and you pay for -- it ought to be available to every American."

On Disenfranchising African-American Voters
"Don't tell us that it's the best we can do [when] in the last election... ...2 million votes weren't even counted. Don't tell us that, when voters who were duly registered and they turn up to vote and they find out that their names have been purged wrongly from the list, or when they show up to vote and they're told, we don't have you registered because the registry makes mistakes. Don't tell us that people who are harassed and intimidated from going to the polls, something we thought we resolved in the 1960s and it still happens in the dawn of the 21st century! We can do better, and we will do better this time."

On Unemployment and Underemployment
"African-American unemployment is now at 10 percent, double the rate for whites. In New York City, 18 up to 30, 50 percent, the African-Americans are unemployed. We can do better! America's increasingly being underemployed. And while they're being underemployed, this administration's fight is not to create the new high-value added job that lifts people up. This administration's fight, unconscionably and wrongly, is to try to reduce Americans' ability to win overtime pay. And we're not going to lose a 40-hour work week in the United States of America."

On Economic Fairness
"If you look at the share in America -- workers shares in America of the national income is at the lowest level in American history. That's just stunning. I read that the other day and I just scratched my head, and I said, "What is going on?" And the spread between the haves and the have-nots is getting bigger. There are more working poor in shelters today. There are more working poor. There are more homeless. And you have to ask yourself: How can we be the richest country on the face of the planet and be pushing backwards against the right of an American worker to be able to actually do better in life?"

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Thursday, July 01, 2004

Campaign for Tobacco-Free Kids

Action Alert

Every day in America, 2,000 more kids become addicted to tobacco - one third of whom will die prematurely. If you are as concerned about this fact as I am, help protect our children by sending a free letter to the President Bush.

I'm helping to launch an Internet campaign to tell President Bush to say no to special protection for Big Tobacco. Will you help? Just click here to send a free message to President Bush:

DontPardonBigTobacco.org

To make matters worse, Big Tobacco has given over $26.5 million in political donations since 1997. Now the tobacco industry wants President Bush to kill the federal lawsuit against the tobacco industry.

Big Tobacco doesn't deserve a presidential pardon. Tell President Bush to hold the Tobacco industry accountable and support the federal government's tobacco lawsuit, which would force the tobacco industry to stop deceiving the public and marketing to kids.

It only takes a minute to help. And if you forward this message to your friends and family, we'll really get the ball rolling.

Thanks for your help,

Carter Headrick
Campaign for Tobacco-Free Kids

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Wednesday, June 30, 2004

Compassion

A few quotations

Allah is compassionate and loves compassion in all things.
~ The Prophet Muhammad (pbuh), as reported by Aishah binti Abu Bakar

Such human qualities as morality, compassion, decency, wisdom and so forth have been the foundations of all civilizations. These qualities must be cultivated and sustained through systematic moral education in a conductive social environment, so that a more humane world may emerge.
~ His Holiness the Dalai Lama

We do not rejoice at the punishment meted out to an enemy; we have been taught by the holy laws to have human sympathy.
~ Philo, "Flaccus"


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The art of acceptance

a definition

The art of acceptance is the art of making someone who has just done you a small favour wish that he might have done you a greater one.

- Russell Lynes


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Moshe Reads an Arab Newspaper

Moshe Reads an Arab Newspaper

A story is told of a Jewish man who was riding on the subway reading an Arab newspaper. A friend of his, who happened to be riding in the same subway car, noticed this strange phenomenon. Very upset, he approached the newspaper reader. "Moshe, have you lost your mind? Why are you reading an Arab newspaper?"

Moshe replied, "I used to read the Jewish newspaper, but what did I find? Jews being persecuted, Israel being attacked, Jews disappearing through assimilation and intermarriage, Jews living in poverty. So I switched to the Arab newspaper. Now what do I find? Jews own all the banks, Jews control the media, Jews are all rich and powerful, Jews rule the world. The news is so much better!"

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Quran Sites

A few I have found useful

http://www.quran.net

http://www.quranweb.com/english

http://www.jannah.org/quran

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Tuesday, June 29, 2004

The Monastery on a Cliff

Hanging on faith...

There is a story about a monastery perched high on a cliff several hundred feet in the air. The only way to reach the monastery was to be suspended in a basket which was pulled to the top by several monks who pulled and tugged with all their strength. Obviously the ride up the steep cliff in that basket was terrifying.

One tourist got exceedingly nervous about half-way up as he noticed that the rope by which he was suspended was old and frayed. With trembling voice, he asked the monk who was riding with him in the basket how often they changed the rope. The monk thought for a moment and answered brusquely, "Whenever it breaks."

BAD JOKE DISCLAIMER: We recognize that religious humour can be risky. It is our hope that by laughing at ourselves (and others) we can make this subject more approachable. If you find any of these objectionable, we apologize. Many were passed along via email and others spotted on other websites. As with most jokes, the original authors are unknown -- but we thank them.

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If Misfortune Befalls You

Quran, Ash-Shura, Surah 42:30-31


If misfortune befalls you, it is the consequence of your own actions. Yet God forgives much.
On this earth you cannot escape God; and there is no one apart from God who can protect or help you.


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Surah 42:33-44

ASH-SHURA Surah 42:33-44

Read 3 times after subuh
Then doa in your own words

33. In yasha yuskini alrreeha fayathlalna rawakida AAala thahrihi inna fee thalika laayatin likulli sabbarin shakoorin
If He will, He would still the wind and they would be motionless on its back; in that are surely Signs for every steadfast, thankful man; (33)

34. Aw yoobiqhunna bima kasaboo wayaAAfu AAan katheerin
or He would wreck them for what they have earned, but He pardons much; (34)

35. WayaAAlama allatheena yujadiloona fee ayatina ma lahum min maheesin
and He knows those who dispute regarding Our signs; they have no place of escape.(35)

36. Fama ooteetum min shayin famataAAu alhayati alddunya wama AAinda Allahi khayrun waabqa lillatheena amanoo waAAala rabbihim yatawakkaloona
So whatever thing you are given is the comfort of the present life, but what is with God is better and more lasting for those who believe and put their trust in their Lord; (36)

37. Waallatheena yajtaniboona kabaira alithmi waalfawahisha waitha ma ghadiboo hum yaghfiroona
and those who avoid major sins and indecencies, and when they are angry, forgive; (37)

38. Waallatheena istajaboo lirabbihim waaqamoo alssalata waamruhum shoora baynahum wamimma razaqnahum yunfiqoona
and those who answer their Lord, and establish the Prayer; and their affair is by counsel between them; (38)

39. Waallatheena itha asabahumu albaghyu hum yantasiroona
and they expend of that We have provided them; and those who, when aggression is made against them, avenge themselves. (39)

40. Wajazao sayyiatin sayyiatun mithluha faman AAafa waaslaha faajruhu AAala Allahi innahu la yuhibbu alththalimeena
And the recompense of an evil is a like evil, yet whoso pardons and makes amends, his wage is upon God; surely He does not love the wrong-doers. (40)

41. Walamani intasara baAAda thulmihi faolaika ma AAalayhim min sabeelin
And whoso avenges himself after he has been wronged, those ~ there is no way open against them. (41)

42. Innama alssabeelu AAala allatheena yathlimoona alnnasa wayabghoona fee alardi bighayri alhaqqi olaika lahum AAathabun aleemun
The way is open only against those who do wrong to the people, and transgress in the earth without right; those, for them shall be a painful punishment. (42)

43. Walaman sabara waghafara inna thalika lamin AAazmi alomoori
And whoso shows patience and forgives, that is surely an act of resolution in the affairs. (43)

44. Waman yudlili Allahu fama lahu min waliyyin min baAAdihi watara alththalimeena lamma raawoo alAAathaba yaqooloona hal ila maraddin min sabeelin
And whomso God sends astray he has no protector after Him; and thou shalt see the wrong-doers, when they see the punishment, saying, 'is there any way to return?' (44)


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Surah 20:120-135

Ta-ha

Read 3 times after maghrib or isyak
Then doa in your own words

120. Fawaswasa ilayhi alshshaytanu qala ya adamu hal adulluka AAala shajarati alkhuldi wamulkin la yabla
Then the Devil whispered to him; he said, "O Adam, shall I point thee to the Tree of Eternity and a Kingdom that shall not decay?" (120)

121. Faakala minha fabadat lahuma sawatuhuma watafiqa yakhsifani AAalayhima min waraqi aljannati waAAasa adamu rabbahu faghawa
So they ate of it, and their shameful parts were apparent to them, and they took to stitching on them the leaves of the garden. And Adam disobeyed his Lord and was perverse. (121)

122. Thumma ijtabahu rabbuhu fataba AAalayhi wahada
Yet his Lord chose him, and turned to him and guided him. (122)

123. Qala ihbita minha jameeAAan baAAdukum libaAAdin AAaduwwun faimma yatiyannakum minnee hudan famani ittabaAAa hudaya fala yadillu wala yashqa
He said, "get you both down from here together, as enemy to one another; and guidance will come to you from Me, then whoso follows My guidance will not go astray, nor will he be in distress. (123)

124. Waman aAArada AAan thikree fainna lahu maAAeeshatan dankan wanahshuruhu yawma alqiyamati aAAman
And whoso turns away from My Admonition, his shall be a straitened life, and We shall raise him blind on the Day of Resurrection." (124)

125. Qala rabbi lima hashartanee aAAma waqad kuntu baseeran
He will say, "my Lord, why hast thou raised me blind, when I was a seeing man?" (125)

126. Qala kathalika atatka ayatuna fanaseetaha wakathalika alyawma tunsa
He will say, "even so Our signs came to thee but thou didst forget them, and today, thou art also forgotten." (126)

127. Wakathalika najzee man asrafa walam yumin biayati rabbihi walaAAathabu alakhirati ashaddu waabqa
And so We recompense him who exceeds limits and does not believe in the signs of his Lord; and surely the Punishment of the Hereafter is more terrible and more lasting. (127)

128. Afalam yahdi lahum kam ahlakna qablahum mina alqurooni yamshoona fee masakinihim inna fee thalika laayatin liolee alnnuha
Does it not guide them, how many generations we destroyed before them in whose dwelling places they walk? Surely in that are Signs for men possessing reason. (128)

129. Walawla kalimatun sabaqat min rabbika lakana lizaman waajalun musamman
And had not a Word gone forth from thy Lord and a term stated, it had been materialized. (129)

130. Faisbir AAala ma yaqooloona wasabbih bihamdi rabbika qabla tulooAAi alshshamsi waqabla ghuroobiha wamin anai allayli fasabbih waatrafa alnnahari laAAallaka tarda
So be thou patient on what they say, and celebrate the praise of thy Lord before the rising of the sun and before its setting; and celebrate it during hours of the night and at the ends of the day, that thou mayest be pleased. (130)

131. Wala tamuddanna AAaynayka ila ma mattaAAna bihi azwajan minhum zahrata alhayati alddunya linaftinahum feehi warizqu rabbika khayrun waabqa
And stretch not thy eyes to the flowers of the present life that We have given to some groups among them, that We may thereby try them, for the provision of thy Lord is better and more lasting. (131)

132. Wamur ahlaka bialssalati waistabir AAalayha la nasaluka rizqan nahnu narzuquka waalAAaqibatu lilttaqwa
And enjoin Prayer on thy people and be thou steadfast on it; We do not ask of thee any provision; We Ourselves provide thee; and the ultimate end is for the god-fearing. (132)

133. Waqaloo lawla yateena biayatin min rabbihi awa lam tatihim bayyinatu ma fee alssuhufi aloola
And they say, "why does he not bring us a Sign from his Lord?" But has there not come to them a clear evidence of what is in the former Scrolls? (133)

134. Walaw anna ahlaknahum biAAathabin min qablihi laqaloo rabbana lawla arsalta ilayna rasoolan fanattabiAAa ayatika min qabli an nathilla wanakhza
And if We had destroyed them with a punishment aforetime, they would have said, "our Lord, why hast Thou not sent us a Messenger so that we might have followed Thy signs before we were humiliated and disgraced?" (134)

135. Qul kullun mutarabbisun fatarabbasoo fasataAAlamoona man ashabu alssirati alssawiyyi wamani ihtada
Say, "everyone is waiting, so wait; and you shall soon know as to who are the people of the even path, and who is guided." (135)

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Improve Negative Relationships

by Changing a Few of the Words You Use
By Harriet Meyerson

How often do you think about the meanings of the words that you use every day? Like most people, do you just utter the words that seem to flow naturally from your mouth? Some of the words that you commonly use may actually have a negative influence on people.

This can create a negative relationship with the very people with whom you would like to have a good relationship.

Here are some places where you might run into trouble by inadvertently using negative words: leaving a message on an answering machine, talking with a colleague at work, chatting with a neighbor, meeting with your children's teachers, and relating with your family and friends.

Here's how you can eliminate six commonly used negative words and replace them with positive words.

PROBLEMS become SITUATIONS
A negative statement would be, "I have a problem at work." Contrast this with the more positive, "I have a difficult situation at work."

A problem seems as though it is stuck to you and will always be there. It weighs heavy on your shoulders. A situation, on the other hand, seems temporary and solvable. It has a much lighter feel to it, and it won't cause as much anxiety.

ALWAYS and NEVER become OFTEN and SELDOM
A negative statement would be, "You never take me anywhere. We always stay home and watch TV." Contrast this with the more positive, "Since we seldom go out in the evenings, and we're often so tired we just watch TV, I get frustrated. I would love to have a special evening out with you. Can we plan one together?"

Always and never are negative words because they are rarely true and exaggerate a situation. Since they are usually used to criticize, people feel attacked and become defensive. The worst part is that others may focus on your exaggeration and entirely ignore your message. In the second statement, however, you are explaining your own feelings and desires, so there is no need for your partner to get defensive, and you are more likely to get your wish - an enjoyable evening out.

SHOULD HAVE becomes COULD HAVE
A negative statement would be, "You should have worked on that management report instead of filing papers." Contrast this with the more positive, "You could have worked on that management report instead of filing papers." Using the words, should have, creates guilt and shame for something that has already been done and cannot be changed, whereas the words, could have, don't condemn anyone. They let someone know he or she had a choice, and this experience then becomes a lesson for making better choices in the future.

BAD becomes UNWISE
A negative statement would be, "You were really bad for missing work when we had a deadline to meet." Contrast this with the more positive "Missing work when we had a deadline to meet was not a wise decision. The rest of us had to work overtime. Would you please find a way to make it up to us."

Using the word, bad, is a judgement of a person's character, and causes resentment. On the other hand, using the word, unwise, refers to the natural consequences of the person's actions, and doesn't judge a person's basic character.

FAULTS become DIFFERENCES
A negative statement would be, "One of his faults that drives me crazy, is that his desk is always a mess." Contrast this with the more positive, "One of the differences between us is that he keeps his desk messy, while I get frustrated unless everything is put in its place."

In using the word, faults, you are judging someone's actions as right or wrong. Using the word, differences, removes the critical tone, because you are pointing out how you are different, not that one person is right or wrong.

MISTAKES become VALUABLE LESSONS
A negative statement would be, "You made a mistake." Contrast this with the more positive, "There is a valuable lesson in what you did." The first way makes others feel ashamed of what they did, and will probably inhibit them from trying new things in the future. The second way gives others something positive to do - to learn from their actions, thereby encouraging learning and experimentation.

The bottom line is that words can either be destructive or enriching to your relationships with other people. So, before you allow the words to simply flow out of your mouth without considering what they mean, remember this one very important word - THINK.

About the author: Harriet Meyerson, president of The Confidence Center, works with companies that want confident, loyal, and happy employees, and with individuals who want the confidence they need for success. Harriet is a member of the National Speakers Association and the author of Fire Up Your Staff on a Shoestring Budget.

Visit the Confidence Center web site for - Free employee morale newsletter. Free articles on employee success and personal confidence. Free articles for your company or association newsletters. Seminar, and telephone coaching information. Free daily fun stuff. http://www.ConfidenceCenter.com
E-mail: Harriet@ConfidenceCenter.com

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Sunday, June 27, 2004

The Jerk of the Month...

The Jerk of the Month...

..is a stupid Dubai national named Salah who plays football for Kelantan. Propositioned a lady friend of mine a few days ago at KLIA. Offered her RM50,000 and when she refused, had the audacity of say that he got phone numbers from two girls the previous day!

You stupid Arabs think Malaysian women are so cheap, do you? Just because you have a charming smile, you think you are God's Gift to Women? Keep it up, Salah, and I assure you before your contract is up you'll loose your balls. And I don't mean the one you kick in a match.

If you try that one more time with my friend, I'll personally cut off both your testicles. And that's a promise!

It's Arabs like you that give Muslims a bad name. Shame on you sick bastards.

And a close second is another sick bastard who has been spreading malicious lies, half-truths and slanderous comments behind people's back while pretending to be nice and smiling in front of them. But it's okay, Allah will curse your children and when one of them goes "cuckoo," you'll have a taste of what it's like, H. Your mother will cry in her grave, you pathetic, sick, sick man.

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