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8 secrets to flirt effectively
By Dee Anne Stiles of match.com

You can see it in the alluring light of his eyes. You can feel it in her radiating smile. It's more than the mere conversation of two people meeting. It's the body's electric love signals most commonly referred to as flirting.

Flirting is dating's green light communication cue that says to the other person, "I really like you. I'm attracted to you. You hit my hot button. Let's boogie on down the dating path."

Whether on computer screens or with in-person meetings, flirting is the heart's playground to attract the right love matches. Here are eight secrets to the art of flirting:

1. Captivate with your eyes
Get and keep eye contact with the other person. Do more than just the regular eye-to-eye connection we have when talking with someone. Really look and gaze at them with captivating eyes that sexily say, "Please come closer. You're special. Let's get to know each other."

2. Smile magnetically
A big, sexy smile radiates confidence and draws people magnetically to you. It puts your flirtee at ease and safely invites him or her to talk with you. A magnetic smile is the honey of flirting that draws the bees — friends and beaus to your growing social circle.

3. Invite open conversation
There's nothing like a warm, genuine invitation to talk openly. The secret to talk flirting is to show total interest, genuine listening, back and forth flowing communication and a light-hearted, almost whimsical tone. Guys, ask how she feels about anything important in her life. Gals, have him tell you the story of his success in anything.

4. Sincerely compliment
Compliments are the sweet talk of flirting. The secrets to compliment flirting are: Be sincere, enthusiastic, and personal. If the situation warrants, guys you can tell her how beautiful she is — inside and out — and gallantly kiss her hand. Gals, compliment him on anything that has to do with jobs, sports, and physical/sexual prowess.

5. Use body language
Most communication is non-verbal body language. Here are some of flirting's secret body moves: The simple touch, leaning in toward the other person, tilting your head with interest, winking, sensuously sipping your straw or licking your lips, being in-sync with the other person's moves, and teasingly twirling things like straws, pens, even hair.

6. Ooze with interest
Act as if he or she were the most important person in your world and nothing else matters at the moment. Ooze with the allure of your undivided attention, fascination, and interest in just them. "There is nothing sexier or more complimentary than someone who flirts entranced with me and thinks I hung the moon." said Mark, a chemical engineer in Houston.

7. Get your wit going
Relax, remember a confidence building smash hit date, flip on your crazy switch, and get into your "fun and witty groove. " Open up and tell a joke or share a funny story. Keep it in good taste. Start a clever banter and teasing back and forth. Let the power of attraction inspire your wit and personality to open up, charm, laugh and have that magical fun of flirting.

8. Glow with excitement
They say the chemistry sparks may fly when two well-matched people meet, especially when they turn out to be soul mates. "When we're flirting, there's just a special glow that radiates from your smile, your eyes and your whole aura. It's as if you almost glow red with the hot rush of flirting." said Sherrie, a decorator in Miami.

The real secret to mastering the art of flirting is to find that special attraction and have fun pouring out the magnetism, heart and charm. Begin to connect with someone today online and see what happens!


Quiz: Rate your flirting form
By Elizabeth Traglia of match.com

Find out whether you're diving into the dating pool as a perfect 10, or just doing a cannonball.

When a cute stranger steps on your foot in a crowded bar, you:
• Say, "Watch it!" (Score = -1)
• Writhe in pain (Score = 4)
• Apologize (Score = 1)
• Crack a joke (Score = 3)
• Start a conversation (Score = 2)

When you meet someone you'd like to get to know better, how do you proceed?
• You pitch it as an invite to a group get-together with friends (Score = 1)
• You go direct. Something like, "I'd love to get together with you sometime." (Score = 2)
• You use an excuse: "We both like Bond - I know where Goldfinger is playing." (Score = 3)
• You give the person your number before being asked (Score = 4)
• You wait and let them ask for your number (Score = -1)

Your screen name most closely matches which category:
• Practical — maybe related to your name or city (Score = 1)
• A good conversation-starter — a hobby, nickname (Score = 2)
• A play on words that gets people laughing or thinking (Score = 3)
• Something sexy (Score = 4)
• Related to the car you drive, or to your job title (Score = -1)

At an office happy hour, you lock eyes with someone standing solo at the bar. Your move?
• Ditch your cocktail and ask them for advice on what you should order (Score = 2)
• Keep an eye peeled for an hour, to be sure they're not someone's date (Score = 1)
• Send over a margarita from across the bar (Score = 4)
• Nada. No flirting at work parties (Score = -1)
• Ask them to save you from your work party for a moment, and offer to buy that drink (Score = 3)

The best way to make someone sit up and notice you:
• Making intense eye contact (Score = 4)
• Telling a hilarious story (Score = 3)
• Acting disinterested (Score = -1)
• Being non-threatening and friendly (Score = 1)
• Asking a lot of questions and casually touching (Score = 2)

If you scored:

Less than 0
If flirting is an Olympic sport, you're going for the... wait, what's below bronze? Aluminum? When you're around a love interest, you become introverted. The problem: It gives the impression you're unhappy and disinterested — even when you may really like someone. An easy fix? Ask questions. Everyone loves talking about themselves, plus when you tune in to the answers it shows you're a great listener.

1-6
OK, time to dash an old flirting myth — when you treat someone as "just a friend," it backfires. They end up thinking of you as just a friend. Unless you commit to clear flirting signals — such as the casual arm touch, or smiling while making eye contact — your flirting form may flop. So make your interest clear, instead of leaving them wondering if you like them in that way.

7-14
Your flirting form is like that perfect martini — a great balance of style and smoothness. Your twist? Your natural curiosity about people leaves them feeling like they made a real connection. How's that for a perfect 10?

15-20
When you turn on the charm, stand back — you give it your all. The problem? Sometimes your aggressive moves may label you as a player, someone who couldn't possibly be looking for a real relationship. Slowing down to make a legitimate connection with someone would boost your success ratio in a big way.


Ways To Deal With A Flirt

Some women don't know what they want. One minute they're hot, the next they're cold. When it comes to relationships, there are no guarantees. It's a woman's right to change her mind ...and to flirt and to torture and to tease and to tease and to tease...

So if you ever find yourself stuck in the same room with a women who will only let you get so close, remember the following bits of friendly advise. They could make the chase more interesting:

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Call her Bluff
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If the girl you're interested in seems like a tease, point it out to her. Say something like, "So, does everyone tell you you're a big flirt?" Again, the key to success is doing this in the most unassuming way possible and with a smile on your face, like you're too smart for her games. It'll disarm her. And remember to call her a flirt, not a tease. Most women will find the former cute and the latter offensive.

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Know the Enemy
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Start doing what she's doing. After all, two can play that game. She might actually find the whole thing amusing. If she does, you may get the girl after all.

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Ignore Her
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Don't take the bait by aggressively pursuing her. It'll just give her more reason to carry on. Ignoring a tease will sometimes make her more interested in you.

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Keep Your Cool
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Don't get your hopes up. Don't assume you're going to break a tease of her bad habits. You probably won't. Enjoy yourself, but don't expect much and you won't get disappointed.

If all else fails, and it may, start hitting on her friend. A tease occasionally needs a taste of her own medicine. It's a little vengeful, but so what? Maybe her friend will prove the better catch.