MY SOCIAL WISH LIST
Intelligence is sexy to this gentleman. If a lady friend I find physically attractive isn't also bright, articulate and someone I can trust and talk to, I'm not interested. I’ve learnt the hard way that young babes are bankrupt in every direction except in looks. The ladies I'm seeking need to possess, above all, sincerity and candour, and should be very open with their feelings as the foundation of intimacy is truth.

We need to be able to communicate well as I believe communication based on mutual respect and honesty is key to any relationship, be it a platonic friendship.


COMMENTARY
by a lady friend whom I suspect would prefer anonymity

It is indeed intelligent to separate the bankrupt babes from the lovely ladies and even more so to be able to recognize the difference. Physical attractiveness alone is no longer the benchmark and it would best be complemented with a "beautiful mind." Beauty at its physical dimension may be in the eyes of the beholder but what of the mind?

Physical beauty may be appreciated by the eyes within seconds but to really know someone, to learn what makes them tick, to appreciate the way they think, what lies within, beneath the surface... takes time.

Can they match your wit? Can they relate to your logic? Will they have anything stimulating to offer to you mentally?

They may, or they may not. But what's definite is, you're not about to discover that in a matter of minutes. That’s the beauty of it. And that's a risk worth taking, an investment in time worth making.

I'd rather invest my time in someone who can speak their mind, who doesn't oblige and say certain things to live up to society's expectations, just to be "nice," or to avoid offending or troubling you for the sake of harmony which inevitably will rise to a crisis eventually.

So, yes, I would very much appreciate someone who is open with their feelings, thoughts and opinions while maintaining mutual respect in the relationship.

~ Source: Undisclosed